Forgotten Mourners: After the death of a brother or sister, friends and family members might not realize the siblings’ grief, say four who know


Summary: Some days, Hannah Wilford sobbed uncontrollably. Other days, the teenager seethed with anger. She was angry at the driver of the car that struck and killed Aaron, her 15-year-old brother. She was mad at her parents.
For nearly two years, she ignored her mother’s pleas to talk, and secluded herself in her bedroom after school. Some days, she gossiped with friends on her phone, pretending that nothing was awry in her Carrollton home. Hannah’s is one of four stories of bereaved siblings in my 1999 piece in The Dallas … Continue reading

How do I say I lost my brother and my best friend?


Summary: In 1999, I wrote a two-piece package about sibling loss for The Dallas Morning News called Forgotten Mourners. This piece was a personal essay about how I dealt with the question, “How many siblings do you have?” over the years.

To read this article, published on July 25, 1999, please visit The Dallas Morning News archives.

Reaction: This essay was picked up by newspapers around the country and many readers contacted me to say how it touched them and how they saw themselves in the essay because of their … Continue reading